When I started working on my list of agreements on our relationship I really had to think about what I was writing and why. I need to remind myself to look at both sides of an agreement. I need to make sure that I am using it to practice not-blaming, not-judging, and not-manipulating. I need to be careful that I am not trying to control the relationship. I need to understand my partners feelings and emotions. This will lead to new and better agreements/resolutions (1).
I need to realize that resolutions will not always be immediate. If we come to an agreement that we do no agree on, we both will step away and take time to think about the disagreement and revisit it at a set time. This will take a lot of flexibility on my part. I will need to acknowledge my feelings and not let my emotions take control of a situation.
1. Easton, Dossie; Hardy, Janet. The Ethical Slut. Berkeley. Print. 2011. pp157.
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